This is what I would classify as interesting.
While I believe in modesty in dress and I believe that we ought to be thinking about how our dress will affect the men around us when we choose our clothing, I also think that people can focus a little too much attention on women alone with regards to modesty.
Can we have a similar survey about how women ought to be treated? About how men ought to dress? About what makes women stumble (are we not attracted to men by how they look)? Certainly there are millions of men out there (some Christian) who behave immodestly towards women even though they are fully dressed in modest attire. Can we talk about men’s bathing suits and how they can cause women to stumble? Can we get opinions from women about the kinds of (funny looking) suits that would be necessary to keep women from seeing a little too much man-skin?
I really am all for modesty. Please don’t take anything other than that fact away from this mini-rant. I do get the feeling though that many men would be turned on no matter what efforts were taken (some that really should be taken) to curb the tide of rampant immodesty in our society. We need to remember too that there are obviously still sexual indiscretions in countries where women are required to be FULLY covered from head to toe. In such instances a pair of flirting eyes can say just as much to a virile man as a scantily covered bouncing rack. In fact, I think placing legalistic boundaries on women’s clothing objectifies women almost as much, though obviously in a different way, as Playboy centerfolds do.
I know that the site that did this survey said that the vast majority of respondants believed that they hold the same amount of responsibility for not lusting as the women who must dress modestly to help them in their desire to remain pure. But if this were truly the case, would they not have thought about conducting a survey about what makes women stumble? How their own dress, talk and behavior can come across as immodest or imprudent? And about ways that could help them to redirect, or repent of, their thoughts when they feel them going by the harlot’s front door (ala Proverbs).
It seems sort of like an argument between a husband and a wife where one person says, “It’s both our faults… but let’s just talk about you okay? I’ll deal with me… I’m my own problem. But, for discussion’s sake, let’s just talk about the you factor.”
I find that to be a trifle unbalanced.