21 years old. (Our marriage, that is.) Yes! Our marriage is officially legal drinking age today. And one might think that, after the kind of year it’s been, a good stiff drink is exactly what’s called for! But instead of a drink to forget, we are lifting high the cup of salvation and drinking it to its dregs to remember his faithfulness to us, knowing more than ever that this marriage was never just a Shawn and Nan thing. There is a third party in the mix. The one who ordained our union, who ordered our steps, who called and equipped us, the one who binds the hearts of believers together including those of a believing husband and wife, the one who sustains us, the one we both cling desperately to in life’s inevitable storms, the one who redeems all of our sorrows and dresses us in garments of praise so that we can sing our love songs to him even as he leads us through the darkest valleys.


So, yes… perhaps our marriage really did just cross a threshold of sorts. But it was Jesus who carried us over it. So, drink deeply, my love. Drink this life of wild unpredictable safety in the third party to our union, without whom we certainly would never have made it this far.

Happy 21st Anniversary to the three of us, my love. You and Jesus and Me. I love you both.

Ecclesiastes 4

9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! 11 Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? 12 And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Happy Anniversary, Nan. As I’m sick today on our anniversary we have to practice the harder side of our vows, as we have had to these 21 years. Because we covenanted with each other and God, our marriage is the canvas on which God paints the drama of redemption. The days of “no more drama” will come when the Groom and Bride unite forever under the canopy of New Creation. To put a Gospel twist on one of our favorite songs: I will follow You into the dark… and the light. Thanks for holding my hand and my heart close to yours as long as we both shall live.

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