II Samuel 12:7
Nathan said to David, “You are the man! Thus says the LORD, the God of Israel, ‘I anointed you king over Israel…
For clarity’s sake, Nathan was not a yes man. He was not saying, “You da man, dawg!” He was ripping David’s blinders off so he could see the ugly truth. He was showing him Jesus! This is love. He was confronting someone who had wandered into reckless narcissism, sexual power plays, and pre-meditated murder.
Friends, if “a man after God’s own heart” can find himself so wildly off course, who are you to think you are incapable of deeply harming those whose particular care you are charged with? For the sake of your soul and the sake of the kingdom, if you are a pastor you NEED a prophet Nathan in your life. Those whom you oversee desperately need you to have a Nathan. In the words of Woody the Cowboy with reference to the essential nature of having a moving buddy, “If you don’t have one, get one!”
And please also consider that you may be the Nathan that someone else needs.